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Midlife, you say? Opinions vary widely regarding when “midlife” “or middle age” actually begins and when it ends, and that’s okay. However, despite the annoying health problems and physical changes that tend to pop up the deeper we go into our 40s, of this I am certain: The decades spanning our mid-30s to mid-60s can and should be our most productive and satisfying.

Here’s a very helpful NPR article on how to not only “survive” but THRIVE during middle age…which happens to be where I reside at the moment.

We still have so much to learn and experience, and I find that incredibly exciting! Four questions I encourage you to consider right now:

  1. What life goals do you need to start permitting yourself to embrace? What sometimes keeps you from taking permission?
  2. What are the fears that stand in your way right now? Which ones are grounded in reality and which are more fairly described as “catastrophizing?”
  3. Who are the people you need to engage differently in order to make progress? Which ones are family or close friends? Which are Millennials? GenXers? Boomers?
  4. What are a few steps you can take right now to feel less stressed? Think small in order to go big; what can you do TODAY?

If you’re resonating with this short blog, chances are you’re a “mid-lifer” who’s politically liberal, well-educated, and well-read; and view yourself as still having lots of untapped potential and eager to focus more on your goals and feel less overwhelmed by everything on your plate. To learn some additional tips on how to make progress on these kinds of needs, please check out my book The 4 Spheres of Intentional Living and contact me here.

Be well,




John M. DeMarco is a writer, strategist, and executive coach based in Nashville, Tennessee.