nvc

Non-Violent Communication (NVC) is a powerful tool for enhancing business and personal relationships. At a high-level, it involves the integration of four things:

  1. Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and authenticity
  2. Language: understanding how words contribute to connection or distance
  3. Communication: knowing how to ask for what we want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move toward solutions that work for all
  4. Means of influence: sharing “power with others” rather than using “power over others”

The outcomes NVC aspires toward are, in general:

  1. Increasing our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection
  2. Connecting empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships
  3. Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit

More specifically, regarding implementing NVC within day to day conversation, the framework involves communicating four things:

  1. The concrete actions I observe or others observe that affect well-being
  2. How I feel or others feel in relation to what has been observed
  3. The needs, values, desires, etc., that create my feelings or another’s feelings
  4. The concrete actions I request  or others request in order to enrich life

For a deep dive into NVC, check out this book.

Meanwhile, I plan to blog about this topic on a regular basis. Please contact me and share any success stories you have related to implementing NVC.

Next Steps to Consider

In my professional work, I help individuals and organizations enhance personal and business relationships and results through:

  1. Mindful Content (Books, Blogs, and Resources)
  2. Mindful Executive or Life Coaching 

What do I mean by “mindful?”

Mindfulness is my core organizing and unifying practice for every moment and dimension of life–including self-care, family, friends, community, and professional work. In a nutshell, mindfulness is the practice of becoming more fully aware of and attentive to, without judgement, what’s taking place within and around you. Some of the most common mindfulness exercises include pausing before reacting or responding, sitting meditation, breath meditation, mindful eating, mindful walking, reciting mantras, visualization, and doing a body scan–but there are many more.

Mindfulness can be your game-changer. There’s more research (such as this Forbes article) on the benefits of mindfulness than you or I can ever hope to read, but here’s the highlights of why mindfulness is worth doing:

  • Reduced stress
  • Increased focus and concentration
  • Increased productivity
  • Healthier relationships
  • Increased happiness and inner peace

I bring extensive cross-industry experience, education, and credentials to these services I offer. To inquire about my background and services, sign up for a free exploratory coaching session, or subscribe to free monthly content, please contact me here. You can also visit my LinkedIn profile and check out this post on my career journey.

Thanks and take good care,

John

John M. DeMarco is a writer, strategist, and executive coach based in Nashville, Tennessee.